Being a Gentleman Makes Him a Sexist Pig?

Chivalry might not be dead, yet, but if ideas like this catch on, it's surely on life support and not looking good.

After research findings at Northeastern University in Boston were released, many of us guys here in the South have discovered that we're not only "sexists", but apparently, we're the worst form of sexists, because we don't even realize we're being sexist.

We're guilty because of our "benevolent sexism", which happens when a guy opens a car door for a lady, rises from his chair when she enters a room, or even offers her his jacket when she's cold.  And the worst part is that this "benevolent sexism" makes what we once called a true Southern gentleman, the worst kind of sexist pig, because this guy doesn't even know he's being sexist.

The researchers say, "It's a very paternalistic, protective view of women, and it seems kind of appealing as a sort of chivalry.  But it does contribute to inequality, because these men don't expect women to achieve high goals."

Really?  A woman doesn't want to be shown the highest respect?  A woman doesn't want a man to shield her from the cold or protect her from life's worst elements?

I'm not buying it!  In fact, as a father of three sons, I've taught my boys to do all these things!  To show women respect.  Give them honor and always protect them in times of strife.  If you're a Christian, you'll even find this instruction in the Bible.  It's 1st Peter, Chapter 3, Verse 7:

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Do you think Peter meant that women were "less" than men?  Certainly not!  He meant that we men are just "stronger" than women and by design, men were meant to do most of the heavy lifting for our female partners.  She's certainly capable, but when available, a man should always rise to her aid.  And not because she "needs" the help, but because her birthright is the aid and respect of men.

So regardless of what this research might say, please never allow Southern Gentlemen to fall prey to those who would think less of chivalry and may we always remember that one of the greatest gifts a father can give his sons is to show them how to treat a lady.